The holidays are here… Breathe.
This time of year can mean, well, everything. It places a heightened focus on food, travel, logistics, planning, money, and stuff. There are also more times to see family and friends at gatherings, work functions, parties, and checkout lines.
If you feel like sometimes this is all too much, you have some choices.
- Go into a cave until it’s over.
- Find ways to tend to your energy (input/output equation), so you can experience less stress and more JOY!
One of these energy management areas is dealing with people — and their energy. As an energetically sensitive being, I practice this ALL THE TIME and have learned a few strategies and tools along the way.
Here are 2 STRATEGIES & TOOLS to support your ability to calm down and amp up your inner peace.
YOU BE YOU. In turn, they be they. I’m teaching this often to my 10-year old son. Everyone has an opinion. Just because they say what they think or how they feel doesn’t mean you have to agree, or even argue with it. They are sharing the lens they are seeing their world through. You have yours.
What would the world be like if we truly allowed this and
Perhaps a chance to get a wee bit closer to “Peace on Earth, Goodwill to People” optimistic ideal?
Instead of feeling frustrated that someone else doesn’t see the world the same as you, fighting for your perspective, or suffering because they are not who you want them to be — say out loud or to yourself something like, “That is interesting,” or “How fascinating!” or “What do you mean by that?” with curiosity (instead of criticism) in your tone of voice. Or simply, kind eye contact and acknowledgement of their presence with a little, “hmm.”
You do not have to take on another person’s perspective, including the energy they vibe. You be you. They be they.
TAKE BREAKS. Your energy will be impacted in part by who and how many you are around. If you enjoy the people you are with, you will likely feel energized. Unless you are introverted, or partially so, and will need a break from time to time no matter who you are with.
If you are with people or just one person whose energy drains you, get out of there! As you are able. If your energy is waning and you are with someone(s) who you are tolerating or is toxic, you will become more vulnerable to taking on their stuff and may feel more fuzzy, dizzy, or icky.
Rest, recover, and rejuvenate. It depends on the environment you are in and how much time you have.
If you are not able to physically walk away yet, try these:
- Close your eyes for a moment
- Take a few conscious breaths
- Feel your feet and the earth below you
When you are able to be mobile, try these:
- “Excuse me, nature calls!” and go into the nearest restroom even if you don’t actually need to use it
- Go outside and get a breath of fresh air
- Find another space to be in
- Leave — if possible and applicable
When you get back home or into your own space:
- Check in to see how you are feeling and what you need to rest, restore, and recover
- Plan it
- Do it
- Fill yourself back up with your awesomeness!
When you engage your power of assessing your energy status, you are empowered to choose on your behalf, instead of being at the mercy of the energetic sea. Believe me.
This is a practice. You MUST consciously pause the external, so you can go internal. Then, you can enjoy the season with more comfort in your own skin.
- Reprinted with the permission of The National Wellness Institute and SoulisticArts.com